Islam is a wonderful religion, it never did make life difficult for its followers. It's humans themselves that created their own difficulties, what is not required and mandatory they made it so.
So they 'kill' themselves trying to meet these 'standards' they themselves made mandatory. They fear 'people talking' not God. They fear shame not God.
That's just examples.I am not pious for I am still learning AND I repeat, I am not against our culture, I am just weighing the issues as I totally don't agree in 'killing' yourselves just to 'save face' or your so called 'culture'. I just hope in this beautiful ramadhan you realize and hopefully not 'kill' your partner, yourself or maybe your parents in the process of having that mandatory reception of yours in order to carry on culture. I pity those who are made to do all those, trying to meet the standards we created.
Berfikir.
Al Ameen
Al Ameen~ The trusted one.
Anyways, with regards to the comment made:
Adat and budaya(culture) are merely culture, it is not a must to do so if someone is financially tight. This is of course with reference to Malay weddings. In Islam, even the feast is not mandatory, it is good to have one IF you can afford it. The 'nikah'(solemnisation) itself IS mandatory.
Islam does not make marrying of two souls difficult, troublesome or burdensome to its ummah. The cultures made it so. If the masses can recognise that culture is not mandatory in Islam, I guess less couples will sin. Why they got married late and in the end commit sins which I shall not elaborate because it is about time they get married, 'legalize' their relationship BUT the pressure of culture forces them to delay in order to scrimp and save just to oblige to people who strongly believes that to carry on the culture is mandatory. These people who delay the marriages of their children in my point of view in fact encourages 'zinnah'(promiscuity) and all that is against Islam itself.
I guess you have to do your own research yourself, cos it is better if you find out and rationalize yourself first.
I am not against 'adat and budaya' but it is what that put pressure so much on couples and delayed their marriage and cause them to sin. Do you want to be responsible for these poor couples who have sinned maybe more and more due to be having to save more money just to carry on the culture or even coming up with the 'market rate' dowry some i've heard even to a whopping 12k? IS IT EVEN NECESSARY IN THE FIRST PLACE? In Islam, the dowry is to help ease the burden of the bride's side to hold a feast but then again, the bride's parents should be aware if the male is able to come up with the amount, if not how much he can afford and hold a feast accordingly within the budget. Not robbing the groom in broad daylight demanding huge amounts as though his wife to be is being held hostage.
For me myself, I am glad my future in laws are of sound mind to ask what I am capable of and what they only ask of me is to take good care of their daughter once she becomes my wife. I will come up with what I am able to(of course I try my best to come up with more because of the rising costs) for the hantaran. And my wife to be is even saving up herself to help with the feast.
The rest, the 'adat and budaya' thingy is totally up to me if I can afford it. My mom too was well enough to understand and let me handle it and do according to what I can afford. There's sponsors, well alhamdullilah, if there's not, minimal is enough.
I think that is the proper way, I don't understand why we need to be slaves to culture. Culture I believe is like an accessory to life where without it you won't go naked. If you can afford, go ahead, if not why kill yourself.
Anyways to all Muslims, let us welcome Ramadhan.
P.S. If you are wise enough to comment, I am sure you are wise enough to leave your name. And don't get others involved in your comment for it is not necessary but if it is me you are pointing out to, my point of view is as above. And for your info, I am doing my wedding within my means, sponsors are out of their own will and as gifts to me, Alhamdullilah. apologies in advance anonymous. :)
You my co-pilot
A moment of silence please for those who never get a chance.
In mine(r'ship) both of us always get a chance, to speak up that is. And had it not been for that chance we provide each other all the time, I guess I'd still be filled with negativity in this place we call earth/home where supposedly civilized human beings reside.
You have indeed been my co-pilot, steering me away from getting myself into deeper shit or trouble.
We learned alot from each other. Love ya Nurain. :)
Yippeeeee!
Got sponsors for 'berkat' and 'kompang'....yipeeeeee!
Anyways it's great that I learned peribahasa back in school cos that was one of part of Bahasa Melayu lessons I enjoyed....
Sayings like 'Kata dulang paku serpih, Kata orang dia yang lebih' will always remain vivid in mind and certainly can apply to daily life, so many can apply....like 'Makan boleh sembarang makan, cakap jangan sembarang cakap'
Anyways I'm laughing my ass off at the antics of some human beings, so......contradicting to themselves....bah....
anyways definition of antics (in case some of you don't know):
1 : an attention-drawing often wildly playful or funny act or action;
2 archaic : a performer of a grotesque or ludicrous part
Okayyyy have a great weekend everyone....love ya'all.....ouh thanks guys love ya'all....
Get Out!
Get out of that box of yours, not everyone's evil. Ouh I am not saying to be naive(apparently one of my colleagues is a spy). Cos if you're naive it'll get you eaten as well! But then again keep an open mind, not everyone's evil ok. And everybody's human, a mistake doesn't make him Satan.
At work apparently there's spies lingering around, being a lame fuck tape recorder and pass what is said to the boss. You know sometimes you can't trust people whole-ly especially those with smiles from end to end. They are not what they appear to be, they have hidden agendas, urgh, disgusting hypocrites. I'd love to wish for their mishaps like they hope for ours but then again, God is great, I'll let him decide. I just hope I don't turn into one of those ugly dumfucks who wishes for calamities upon others. It is so not humane.
Anyways I feel sometimes I waste precious time but then again every little things we do matters cos it does play apart in the end. It does.
I am still considering the degree, although that fear of not studying is always there. I think once everything settled, I'd invest on it and take the risk. I just don't want to stay mediocre, I want to be a little above that. And of course alternatives, jobs that is. I wanna do something I really enjoy not just like which brings income that superceeds the current one, if that happens.....woots! But am still discovering what I am really good at and what can bring in the dough without difficulties, that's a tough one. The thing is, I've always wanted to be my own boss, have my own schedules and decide on what I wanna do daily. That'll be great right?
Hahaha, yeah maybe some of ya would be saying....'yah yah dream on sid....' then again everyone needs dreams to get started.
ok gtg, best wishes everyone,
Hmm
Since you mentioned....
Does that mean the question came from the bottom of your heart and you meant it?
How sad, so sad....but wat to do, to each his own. Sigh~
Let it be...
Hmm
After Subh' I sat down and just went into deep thoughts and did a self-reflection. Thinking negatively and thinking that she meant what she said makes me indifferent from there. I'm no pious soul but Alhamdullilah for guiding me to think that way. If you want to make a difference, it should start from yourself and not expect others to change and slowly the rest will follow. I guess that's whats happening to me now. Alhamdullilah once again.
Cruelty
I can't believe how cruel you are.
Thank God. Thank God for Ain.
Again, my sincere apology to Azmin, although many doubt it but then again why here? Because somehow somewhere someone somebody might read and tell her. When I meet her I will apologize in person but for now I think I'd let the matter rest. I am sorry for the hurt that I have caused, it was unintentional. I've told Ain before that you are one of the nicest frens she has. And true enough you are.
And I am sorry Ain, I gotcha into this, you are totally not involved and yet you are at the recieving end. And I am so proud of you, you are definitely one smart girl and you've thought me lots, just that people don't know that at times you gave me some tongue lashing of your own as well but in a subtle way with all sense. In fact even before anyone point out to me, you pointed out to me first what I shouldn't have done. You know you are marvellous. And for goodness sake, she doesn't take my side if I am wrong, she does tell me off.
Till this minute, I still can't believe what I heard. It's shocking but I try to give it a benefit of a doubt that the question appeared only out of anger(as Ain suggested). A stubborn part of me is inclined on the negativity(cos it came for the second time) but the other half is pulling it out of the puddle of tar of no return...all thanks to Ain. But if it is true and it came from your heart, may God make you realise how much I love Ain and to what extent so please erase that silly question of yours. So if you are still human and have mercy, that question you asked really made my heart dropped like from the top of a skyscraper at a speed that will send the heart to splatters. Speaking of hurt, yeah I know it now especially when its coming from a person I already considered friend not acquaintance. I just hope its not coming from your heart but it was just a wrong struck of nerve when that blood boils that triggers you to come up with such a painful question. I should've defended my Ain but yes, she's right it'll only makes things worst.
So in the rarest occassion, Sid is waving the white flag and giving in.
This blog is my avenue of letting it out since dunno when, I guess you guys noticed less of my blog entries lately cos I have been the happiest on earth for more than a year now and thanks to Ain. I never know what will happen if she's not around. Probably I'd just be in love with my bike....LoL and my cameras.
I am still in disbelief though that both extremes came from the same source. Really, I am in disbelief. Thanks Ain for keeping me on the positive side.
You're right
There's no denying that what you said were right, I do not understand girls till today. Of course only you that I understand most till date, that's why we are getting married...we understand each other. Even when we are pissed at each other at one point, we talked it out after things are fine and we learn about each other slowly.
lucky
I think I am the luckiest. I've been granted with so many wonderful things in life although my life was not perfect. Although there's some unpleasantness along the way.
God granted wonderful people around me to provide the balance and at times I can even overlook the unpleasantness. At times I even teared because I am moved by these wonderful people around me. First of all, Alhamdullilah I have been granted with a wonderful mom, she stood by me from day 1, till come to this period where I leave single-hood and be someone's husband soon. Dad was never really there for me but having such an extraordinary mom, I never really need a dad except it wasn't a social norm back then to be a single-parent even though mine was a mere divorce case whereby both parties could no longer live with each other. It wasn't their fault but somehow still it was a little unacceptable to society. Mom was strong, she stood by all the way till where I am today. Thank you mom, you don't know how much I love you.
Then there was wonderful friends who stood by me, even though I was temperamental and at times my frankness hurt them unknowingly. These friends are those who really made me forget that I had backstabbers and cheats in my life. They are God's gift to me that kept me strong and going and still knowing there's at least still living things around me that's worth calling human beings. Friends like Shahreil who gave me a listening ear thru times of trouble who gave me advise even though he's like a year junior but have sensible thoughts and solutions. Friends who shared certain unpleasantness in life like me, who are not so lucky in life as to be blessed with everything they want. Friends who wants to give a helping hand at the slight thought that I might need one even without me asking. Friends like Is-burong who provided me shelter when I was staying alone, all by myself lost and of course his mom who welcomed me with open arms. Friends like, Raimie, Raihana, Rashid and Shahreil who believed in me who signed my bond even though they know the risk they got themselves into, 44k to be exact. Friends like Mankey who willingly took the risk and be my guarantor when I wanted to indulge in my interest in bikes. Friends who believed in me like Ross and Hairul whom introduced me to their friend Ain who soon will be my life partner. Friends like Zack who consoled and counselled me when I needed it back then. And many other Friends alike who guided me along the way in every little bit. Uncles and aunts who defended, stood by me, guided and believed in me. Of course my cousin Hadi who actually provided me shelter right now, even though he himself is in alot of problems for himself to handle. People like my nenek who go finding my Dad who's in Indonesia and try to bring us(his children) together. And last but not least, NurAin who made me feel loved and wanted, who stood by me, who believed me, who gave me a listening ear, who makes me laugh, who makes me happy, who's willing to live with me for the rest of her life.
I just hope I fall into the category of wonderful people in life of many others. I will try not to disappoint you guys. You guys rocks and theres always a place for you guys in my heart. Although I might not have showed it, or showed my appreciation much but deep in here, I am very thankful and prays that God will repay your kindness, InsyahAllah. I hope my prayers will be answered cos you guys deserve it.
And of course even those ugly, decietful, hypocritic, evil, heartless....whatever you would like to call them are indeed gifts from God. They make me learn, they made me stronger, they make me wary, they make me wanna fight further. They too did play a major role in my life.
All in all, Alhamdullilah, for where I am now, God is great. Allah-hu Akbar.
realise...
The world works in mysterious ways.
I realized that its like a chain reaction, one thing leads to another. I realize that what I am doing now matters to what might happen in the future no matter what and of course what I did or did not do before is taking its effect now or maybe in the future.
For instance, I did not make effort to know my cousins or relatives that much. Now...
I injured my knee while I was still in secondary school...Now....
I did not study, I was playful during my secondary school days....Now...
I was job hopping and all....Now....
BUT what's the use of regret? Look forward now, change, try to make things better. When we have thoughts, ideas, feelings, use it and don't hesitate. It's better to know you fail rather than regret not trying. I go for it, I try not to procrastinate although it does happen still at times.
Thanks people around me for making things happen.
Hairul asked me if I had any bestfriend(of course Ain is mine) but other than that, there's none. Seriously.....BUT many are special to me, many are good to me and these good people will make my next plan a reality....
Gd nite peeps...
A belated entry.
Effort is the key thing that makes most things happen. In life effort is one of the essentials, although sometimes and some people do get lucky and get what they want with little or even no effort.
Last Wednesday 8th of July, was something that alot of effort has been put in to make it happen, Ain's birthday party. All thanks to her wonderful friends, the surprise birthday party was a blast. It was also effort that made us last this long and definitely longer with all plans in mind. I thank God for granting me such a wonderful companion in life. Like the MCYS ad(if im not wrong), imperfections are sometimes that makes a relationship perfect, it sort of compliments each other. For me, Ain is the nearest perfect thing that has ever happened to me. Alhamdullilah...
Well, HDB hasn't been so kind to us, they changed the regulations, our plans although not elaborated, has to be changed yet again. I am sorry Shikin, due to circumstances, I guess we have to halt for a moment. Whatever it is, we still will get one.
I am glad that Ain's so patient, calm and has no high expectations on me. I am also glad that she is willing to listen and communicate her views and opinions. I guess that's one of the reason that we are still surviving till date, we talk it out and we listen to each other. She made me brave enough to speak my views and because I speak up, likewise she did too.
Anyways, to cut story short, now the planning stage is the painstaking one....anyways like in the first paragraph, everything requires an effort to enjoy a more satisfying success/victory. I can't wait to see what all this effort comes to......
Anyways Ain, Happy 25th, I love you, bear with this stage we'll be there soon. :)
And Guys, thanks again for making it happen, I couldn't have done it without you guys and of course special thanks Hairul and Ross for introducing me to Ain. :)
frankly
frankly....im disappointed, i dunno wat to say, my head hurts, so does my chest and yet i can't sleep. i'm dropping fancy thoughts and i just want to sleep. too bad, but i have to face it.
No Joke
What I am going through now is no joke man. I've embarked on a journey whereby it's really testing my will power and ability. And like it or not, mom has already broken the news to one of my uncles. Hahaha that's it man, the journey has already started, the ship has already sailed in that direction....
Now my job is to make it happen, to complete the journey. Insyha' Allah, I will with Ain of course.
Drive
You know you rely can't rely on people if you want something or need something? For that person that you engage might be utterly busy or has his/her hands filled. Even if its external party where you are paying for their services, you can't really fully 100% rely on them.
So, to be safe is, always have back up plans.
Currently, I am just hoping what I plan falls in place.
Wish me luck. Nothing's concrete, so everything's under covers for now...hehehehe
My butt is so itching to race but I know I have to set priorities, so most prob, racing is a no-no but if I am really butt-itchy, watchout for me on SLINGHD on MioTV in December, cos if I really 'have' to race, I'll be racing in December.....watchout for bike 311. hehehe....
